I enrolled in Dale Carnegie’s Effective Communications and Human Relations Course back in 2013.
It was a once-a-week workshop for 13 weeks. We were asked to apply the principles of effective communications and human relations through weekly public speeches.
This course not only helped me improve in public speaking but it paved the way into being comfortable with myself and being vulnerable. The process of coming up with speeches on a particular topic allowed me to revisit my experiences and reflect on the lessons I learned from them.
One of the speeches I shared was about a pivotal moment in my life 4 years ago. Reading this, now in retrospect, makes me feel grateful and reminds me of the lesson I learned form it.
February 9, 2013
A swell is building up. This will be a huge wave.
I’m nervous. But, I’ll paddle hard. I want to ride this wave.
Harder and harder, I paddled until I felt a force push my surf board. I was going fast.
I stood up and found my balance. Faster and faster, I rode the wave.
I have never felt more alive than that. I was stoked!
6 months prior to that, I was completely the opposite of this ‘surfer’ chic.
I was at the lowest point of my life.
I was devastated from a tumultuous love life. I was burned out with work. I was lost in life. I started questioning what life was all about.
I felt insecure. I was sad, grumpy and lifeless – the complete opposite of “THE PRAX” that you see right now.
One day, I got fed up of the emotional wormhole I was in. I was tired of pitying myself.
“What are you doing with your life?”, I asked. “Why are you throwing it away?”. It took a while for me to answer these questions.
I’ve come up with these realizations that eventually fueled me to get back on my feet.
– Life is too short to be taken for granted
– Happiness is a choice
One day at a time, I did something that pushed me beyond my comfort zone.
I connected with friends I haven’t reached out for ages. I attended parties I usually pass on. I made new friends. I took care of myself. I visited a dermatologist. I stared going to the gym. I tried new activities – surfing, wake boarding and enrolled at Dale Carnegie.
Gradually, I got out of my slump and emerged into becoming a better version of myself – optimistic and happier.
What are the negative things that has happened to you? Any major setbacks that struck you so hard it paralyzed you to move forward?
Remember that every obstacle is an opportunity for us to grow. Life is filled with challenges that are there for us to learn more about ourselves. This is the true test of life that is bound to make or break one of us.
I urge everyone, including myself, to embrace these obstacles. It is only when we allow ourselves to go through life’s obstacles can start to move and learn from them.