Nicole and I had a conversation on where to live after the wedding a couple of weeks back. After only a few minutes, the initial discussion turned into a debate as we pushed our own agenda. Calmness turned into agitation; listening turned into chattering; and openness turned into pushing back.
After I made my point for the nth time, Nicole said, “Be in the Present.”
I was taken aback. Instead of calming down, I got irritated and replied, “Are serious? You want me to be in the present moment? Then, what about our future? Should we just leave to fate where we will live after the wedding?!”
“That’s not the point,” he said almost wanting to smile, “to be in the present moment means for us to decide what we can do now to get closer to our goal. Instead of debating, let’s decide on the next step we should take.”
It felt as if a pail-full of water was poured on me. I light bulb lit up on my head and said, “Yes. You are right. That’s exactly it.